Six months later: THIS IS THE POST SCRIPT

Mary's adopted father, Ralph Kidman, has died.

Ralph had arranged a trust fund which would continue to provide an income for his ex wife, Mary's adopted mother Sue Kidman.  

He never did tell Mary the names of her birth parents, but Ralph's wife found the information in an old chocolate box in a toolbox in the shed when she was selling the house to move to a small flat. 

Mary and I contacted her birth parents.

Her father said,  'Water under the bridge.  Too long ago. Not interested.'  He  explained,  'We had been married for six years.  The pregnancy was unplanned, unwanted.  Ralph and Sue wanted a baby.  We shifted when my wife became pregnant.  Sue was a bit of a blabber mouth so we purposely lost touch with your family.  We didn't tell her that it was our baby.  There is no point in meeting.  You are an adult.  You have always been provided for.  You have no reason to complain.'


Mary said,  'My adopted mother may be a bit scatty but she is a decent caring human being.  I was very lucky that the three of you all moved out of my life.
I'll put you on the "People that I don't need to know list" and we will move on with our very pleasant lives.'


So, I was very proud of the way that Mary handled the rather unpleasant meeting and that is the end of this post script.